A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow – William Shakespeare
Have you thought about your friendships lately? As I’ve entered my mid-twenties I’ve started thinking about the people in my life and how they got here. Some have been unexpected, some came in as a lesson and some never fail to inspire and motivate me. I started seeing a pattern of people that I instantly connect to, who always bring something fresh to my life. I also noticed the people I let go. Those who once meant the world, but somehow along the way, we ended up on different paths. This got me thinking about friendships, particularly ones that we may experience in our mid-twenties…
1.The friendship that matures you
This friendship gives your life a fresh perspective. Every time you see this person, you leave feeling enriched, inspired and ready to take on the world! You have meaningful conversations about your ambitions, struggles and accomplishments. These friendships have no expectations and you can begin right where you left off. They bring you back to earth and help you keep focused on what’s important.
2. The kind where memories will outlive the friendship
Can you name all of the people you used to be friends with? Well, chances are there’s more people that you’ve lost contact with than those who are still in your life. It’s bittersweet, but most friendships will fade away and you will be left with great memories. Sometimes, that’s a good thing. Rather than holding onto something that doesn’t fit inside your puzzle anymore, it’s best to remember the good times when things just worked.
3. A friend that understands your hobbies
Is your favourite show back on TV? I bet you know just the person to talk to! It’s normal to connect to a number of people about different interests. A friend who you travel with, one who appreciates your impressive makeup collection, one who helps you with your ambitions, a friend who you party with and the one whose shoulder you cry on. Each friendship will be different but your loyalty should stay the same.
4. The friend who you hardly see but when you do, it’s like nothing has changed
We all know this one. Whether they’ve moved towns or your busy schedules just never cross paths. With some friends, no matter how long it’s been, you’ll be back right where you took off.
5. The friends that are more like family
Some friends enrich your life and help you grow into the person you are. They help you become more thoughtful, aware and considerate. They are there no matter what and take you for who you are, the good and the bad. They have seen you through your best and absolute worst but always accept you and love you just as much. These friends are pretty much family.
6. Friendships that only last the season
Some people come into your life just when you need them. Maybe you’re going through a rough patch and it’s like an angel has been sent to your front door. Maybe they come in to create a conflict and give you an opportunity to resolve it. Either way, they leave just as suddenly as they come in but you never forget the lessons they have taught you.
7. Friendships that surprise you with something special
Some friendships create sparks of energy that blossom every time you’re together. You try to ignore the feeling but it becomes almost impossible and you soon give in. These kinds of friendships can turn into something beautiful, creating romantic bonds that are impossible to break. Be careful when deciding on the path to take. If the feelings turn out to be something else, you may face the risk of losing this friendship forever.
8. Friendships that are toxic
Sometimes people are put into your life to challenge you. They might challenge your self worth, your appearance, your morality and your values. These people are brought into your life to make you a stronger person as you face new challenges of growing your confidence, strength and self-acceptance. The most important part of dealing with friends like this is knowing when to walk away and accept your experience as a lesson.
No matter what kinds of friends you have, the most important thing to remember is to treat them the way you want to be treated. Nothing beats having a life full of memorable experiences with people that are always there for you, make you laugh and bring happiness into your life. Treasure them and remember that if you’re lucky enough to find a weirdo, never let them go.